I often wonder if I would be a much better mother if I wasn’t a writer as well. I’ve done a pretty good job compartmentalizing my work time, but compartmentalizing my energy is another matter altogether. Here’s what I mean. I never write before lunchtime. I hardly ever do anything writing-related, at least not on the computer.
The idea behind this schedule is to give my kids my best hours (yes, I’m a morning person), and then I can spend an hour or two in the afternoon on writing and go back to it when they’re in bed for the night. Unfortunately, even though that schedule theoretically leaves me “plenty” of time for parenting, I find my mind consumed with writing musings, plot daydreams, marketing ideas, etc. all the time, whether I’m “on the clock” or not.
I honestly don’t know the answer to this. I love my kids and hate to think they might look back on their childhoods and feel left out. Once my son told me it hurt his feelings when I was on the computer so much. Several years ago, I came to the conclusion that feeling inadequate to perform all your duties at 100% capacity just goes along with the territory of being a mother. Hopefully, it’s the house and the cooking that’s getting neglected as a result of my writing, and not my children.
I KNOW many of you can relate (whether you're writers or not.)
Blog Love: Huge thanks to K L Schwengel for hosting the WIPpet Wednesday blog hop, where authors post snippets from the current Works In Progress.
Random Fact: If I could pick one word I'd hope my boys would describe me as, it would be gentle. If I could pick two, the second would be playful. I'm not there yet, but I try.